ORDERING YOUR INNER LIFE

In Module 1 you will learn the tools to help you bring order to your inner life. As a leader, there are many things you cannot control. You can’t control the massive cultural shifts, you can’t control your church members, you can’t control your family, and the more you try to control that, the more frustrated you are going to become.

The good news is that while you can’t control others or lifes changes, you do have absolute control of yourself and your INNER LIFE. Module 1 is absolutely crucial to your life and your leadership. Through this module, you will be equipped with practical tools you can begin to implement immediately to help you develop the inner peace you need so that when the storms of life rage around you, they won’t have to cause your inner life to be disrupted.

MODULE OVERVIEW

TOOL 1: MANAGE YOUR REACTIVITY

As a leader, one of the most important things you can do is to manage your own reactivity. This simply means that you are able to regulate your emotions in the heat of the moment so that you can do the important work of leading. In this lesson, you are going to learn:

1. What does it mean to manage your own reactivity?
2. How to identify the moments when you need to manage your reactivity.
3. Differentiation as a tool for remaining calm, collected and connected.
4. You will be introduced to a new mental model to apply in moments when you are having a difficult time managing your reactivity.

Get the guide below for an overview of how to manage your own reactivity. 

TOOL 2: CRAFTING A RULE OF LIFE

Crafting a Rule of Life is going to help you clarify the practice and rhythms you need to define your Resilient Shape or your “spring back into shape” where you feel your most resilient. This lesson is going to lead you step by step through this process. If you have any questions or need additional help you can reach out to David Oceguera at contact@davidoceguera.com.

The components in this lesson include:

1. VIDEO//

• A Video explaining what a Rule of Life is.
• How it helps you develop resilience.
• Examples of a Rule of Life.
• The YouTube video has been organized by chapters that you can access for more efficient viewing, but you have to watch the video directly on YouTube.
• If you have any issues with the video below this link will get you there as well.  LINK FOR YOUTUBE VIDEO

2. PDF GUIDE//

•  A guide walking you through the process.
• DOWNLOAD THE PDF
• Google Doc// If you prefer to use a Google Doc to Craft Your Rule of Like you can access it HERE. It is locked, so you will have to “Make a Copy” of the doc by going to “File” and clicking “Make a Copy”

TOOL 3: Defining Your Personal Values

This tool aims to help you identify your core personal values and help you implement them so that you can create alignment in your life and thus live a more fulfilling life.

Your values are deeply held beliefs and principles that guide your life. They are fundamental standards or ideals that you consider most important and use to make decisions. Values are like the operating system of your life quietly running below your subconscious and leading you to make your own decisions.

The Components of this Lesson Include:

1. Video: A Video with a short teaching and explanation of the exercises. The video is separated by chapters so that you can skip to the sections you want to work on. The video will be posted Monday, 12, 2023, by 5 am. 

2. PDF Guide. This guide has all the information that you will find in the video. If you prefer to skip the video and solely use the PDF Guide, you will have all the necessary information. DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE HERE.

3. A Google Doc. The Google doc has ALL of the same information on the PDF Guide. If you want to use the Google Doc you will need to make a “copy” of it to fill in your answers.

Using a Mobile Device: If you try to make a copy from your mobile device/iPad, you will need to click on the “Menu” then “Share & Export” then “Make a Copy”. 

On Your Computer: When you click on the link, it will open a “Preview” of the Google Doc, choose “Use Template” on the upper right hand corner of the document. 

NOTE: Please note, these exercises and tools are just for you. You do not have to turn anything in to David, or show them to anyone else, unless you choose to.  

TOOL 3: Setting Healthy Boundaries 

This tool will helps you gain a better understanding of why boundaries are important, how to set them and how they can help you be resilient. 

The Components of this Lesson Include:

1. Video: In this video David Oceguera has a very insightful conversation with Adrian Langdon(a therapist) and Edsel Cadet (a Pastor and therapist) about the importance of boundaries and practical ways to implement them in your lives.  

2. PDF Guide. This guide provides a step by step process is setting boundaries . DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE HERE.

TOOL 5: Develop a Resilience Mindset

Resilience is a mindset. In this lesson you will learn how to develop a plan to identify your barriers to resilience, and how you can overcome them.